It’s What We Do
I have a really great relationship with both of my parents. My dad and I are so much alike in so many ways, and then very different in others. We have many of the same personality traits, but we were raised in very different times and very different environments. I definitely think that creates different ways of thinking about some things…nothing wrong with that though. To an extent, people are a product of their environment. Dad and I have our moments where we disagree on things. This usually turns into an evening-long debate — seriously, like the debate team in high school. It winds up being kind of fun for both of us, kind of like sport. It’s what we do.
He’ll always say ”but that’s okay… you’re just like me, you’re not going to give in, that’s why we butt heads on this.” Overall, though, our relationship is that traditional father/daughter relationship — he gives me advice, tries to keep me from making mistakes, helps me “do stuff” and always looks out for me. We spent a lot of time together in 2006 when I bought a condo and I wanted nearly everything redone on the inside. Dad did it all himself. I was impressed! But then he gets mad when he comes to town to visit and I’ve changed something. He’s like “Are you kidding? I spent all that time on this.” and I say, “Well, a girls gotta change the colors on the wall every once in awhile…”
My babysitting adventures in this episode were a lot of fun. These were my friends’ kids and I love them to death! I’m around them quite often, but it was fun to get them all to myself that day and have our little girl time together. It was definitely a handful with the four of them at once (I dunno how John and Kate and Octomom do it!), but I liked having more of them there because it was fun for them to have all the playmates. I definitely realize that the type of schedule that I have now and a lot of other things will change when I have children. And that’s okay.. that’s a given. I think a lot of people think that because you’re doing one thing today, and happy and thriving that you will avoid any type of change at all costs. I think it depends on what it’s worth to you. Change is a part of life and I want children one day so when that happens, it’s going to be a welcome change. Until that time though, there’s no reason for me to already start changing my life and the way I’m doing things now. (I think I’m conjuring up an in-depth conversation I’ve had with my dad right now…)
He sees me thriving and having fun and enjoying my life so much right now that I believe he thinks that I’m not willing to give that up. To me, it’s not about giving anything up, it’s about welcoming more good things into your life. It’s about adjusting, and when there’s something you want — then the things that have to change are totally worth it for what you’re gaining. Sure, your schedule changes, and someone else becomes your primary focus and priority…. of course. That’s what happens for everyone when they have kids, but for some reason, if you’re past 25 and don’t have kids yet, some act as though it will be this monstrous insurmountable feat that you just may not be able to handle because you’ve been living a great life so far.
What??? It bewilders me. I don’t know why some people think that if you’re living a good life that kids would mess it up for you. Not so. Look at Heidi Klum…. she and Halle Berry are my hot mom idols!
I was a nanny throughout my last couple of years in college and I LOVED it! It was such a great job. It’s kind of funny because now that the show is airing, I’ve run into one family several times that I used to spend a lot of time with and the kids are seeing me on tv and flipping out! Well, so is the Mom actually. They’re older now and it’s so fun to see their reactions because they remember me as the college kid that would show up disheveled in sweats after being at the gym. To see me on their television just bewilders them a bit, but they love it and love to tell their friends. haha.
I think Emily moving to Vegas is the right thing to do if she’s absolutely passionate about it. I have thought about leaving Louisville before. I was <thisclose> to moving to LA in 2002 but it didn’t work out. I kind of got back into a comfort zone here in Kentucky and found myself in pharmaceutical sales, which is a great job and I wasn’t willing to pass it up to continue planning a move to LA. Pharmaceuticals is a great job but it can be very unstable for the sales reps. When I was laid-off in 2006, I was considering looking for positions in other cities that I love like Atlanta, Miami, and Chicago. But I’m still here! Ha!
It’s not a bad thing. Louisville is a great place to be it’s just hard to date here because of the pea-sized dating pool. Everyone knows everyone unless you’re new in town, then you’ll do very well. I always say, the idea is to find your catch out of town (or out of the country… I love accents) and then bring them back to Louisville to settle down.
As for Russ and Hadley – I say if it makes you happy, go for it. I was suprised that they went down the romantic path because I’d always been under the impression that it was a purely platonic friendship. I have a couple of very close guy friends like that and I couldn’t imagine going there.. aacck! No way! They’re like family and it would be way too weird.
I’ve been attracted to that “bad boy” type on occassion. That happens less as you get older I think, and your criteria starts to become a little more specific about who you want to date. As Sarah Jessica Parker put it once, you no longer date “wildly innappropriate men” (or something like that). I don’t think I ever dated anyone who was wildly innappropriate but you just become a little more selective, I think. Plus, after a while, you learn your lesson (or you hope you do) when you’ve dealt with “bad boys” and their antics. Eventually you say “You know what? I’m done with that”
Honestly, I wouldn’t describe Russ as a “bad boy”. He’s a big flirt for sure… and maybe he’s a party boy… but bad boy, I dunno… haha.
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