So this was it — the big “blind date” episode! To be honest, the blind date that I agreed to go on didn’t change my opinion of them in general.

Now keep in mind, I’m defining a blind date as one in which you truly have never ever seen the person, spoken to them, or know anything at all about them. A blind date isn’t a big deal (what’s the worst that could happen?) but I just am not into it. I’d rather do the choosing myself. No one knows me and what I’m attracted to as well as me, right? I mean, I might trust my very close friends who I know have a really good grasp on what I go for and have been around to witness that first hand — but a dating service? Nah…not for me. I was glad that (Aaron?) was very nice and really funny. We both enjoyed the conversation (I think), we found out we had common acquaintances, but as I’ve said many times…sometimes it’s there and sometimes it’s just not. You can’t even always put your finger on it to say why or why not. With those unpredictable odds, I feel like I want to at least know that we’re starting off with a mutual attraction. You can’t do that when you haven’t met until “Go-time.”By the way, in Episode 3 you hear me say that I go on a date about once every 2 or 3 months. Okay, I was exagerrating the infrequency but I was talking about a date where you’ve met a complete stranger, the two of you are attracted, he asks you out and you go. I wasn’t including the dates you go on where you already know the person, you’ve had an ongoing flirtation, or you’ve been out with them before a year ago and bumped into each other again…etc, etc, etc. It’s hard to meet new people in Louisville when you’ve been here and been social for awhile (but I still love my Louisville anyway… it’d be the place to bring the “import” that I find back to to raise a family. hee hee) So I tend to call the brand new acquaintances “dates” and the others I’m likely to say we “hung out.” It’s weird, I know, but whatever.

No blind date disasters to share…I don’t go on blind dates, remember? (So that I don’t wind up with disaster stories! Haha.) Although I have collected a couple of dating disaster stories anyway.

One of them wasn’t a blind date but I’d met this guy in LA sometime around 2002. He was the most beautiful thing I’d ever seen, and although I usually like for the guy to do the approaching, I knew he couldn’t see me and if I didn’t make my way to where he was and say something, I’d fly back home and never see him again. So I really had to work up the courage to approach him, but I did and Thank God he thought it was cute that I was so nervous. Anyway, we went out the next night, all was going well when he had to go to the bathroom. He took forever and when he finally came back all seemed fine still. About 5 minutes later, he could barely put a sentence together or focus. His demeanor had totally changed, he was rude to everyone around us. Long story short…I was Dorothy, not in Kansas (or Kentucky) anymore, and had been totally naive after he’d been in the bathroom for 10 minues, to the fact that he was doing some sort of drugs in there. I wound up having to help him down the stairs and drive him home in his car! Then I called a cab and left him on his own doorstep. He was all like “What’s wrong??” (Are you kidding?) “What a shame,” I thought…Welcome to Hollywood!

I look for confidence in a man (but not arrogance.. it’s a fine line), thoughtfulness, respect (I look for that in anyone, male or female. I give it so I expect it in return.), honesty, someone who does what they say they’re going to do (not a lot to ask is it ladies?). I like a guy that not only tells me he thinks I’m beautiful but is equally, if not more impressed by what I have to say, or how I treat people, or that I’m a humble person.

That said, of course physical attraction is part of the whole dance as well. That’s an objective thing though, because what I consider drop dead gorgeous, the next girl may say “Eh…not so much.” According to my friends I like “pretty boys.” I’d have to agree. It’s not a rule though…just a pattern.

I also want someone that I can look up to and admire…someone that I can learn from. I’m a very strong and self sufficient woman and I always want to have something to work hard at and strive for…otherwise I think you become complacent and miss out on opportunities. I’ve been told that that intimidates some men. I want the guy that’s not intimidated by that but proud of it because that demonstrates the confidence that I’m so attracted to.

I’m not totally attached to my hairstyle (like Emily!) but I like what I’ve got going for now. I do feel change can be good although there’s nothing wrong with hanging onto a style that you feel confident in and that works for you. I think I’m more attached to hair accessories than I am a particular hairstyle! If I could only choose one, I’d probably grab a hair accessory rather than a necklace or earrings.

That said, I would absolutely agree to a makeover…I think it’s fun. I get a little mini-makeover by a fabulous glam squad later in the show…you’ll see!

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