I Guess Condos Are Out
Pre-marital counseling is good for any relationship – it gives you a chance to address issues before you get married rather than after. I would advise it for anyone.
It wasn’t difficult to hear how I annoy Jeff – it’s healthy to know those things, and what better environment to speak your mind? You’ve got someone to help the two of you communicate. With Jeff and I – we sit at home and talk a lot. We have good communication skills, so most of the things we said in counseling, we had already told each other.
Other than the bank account story, another one my Dad loves to tell involves me telling my sister (she’s a year older) that I knew how to drive a stick shift when I was 14. So – he has this sports car in the garage. And my mom asks me to go get the paper, which is at the bottom of this long cliff drive. So I decided to take the sports car to the mailbox. I told my sister to come with me (so I could impress her with my stick shift skills), we get in the car, and…I apparently missed the lesson where you’re supposed to hold the clutch in and keep your foot on the break when you start the car. When I started it, it popped forward and wrecked into the front of the garage (this was his brand new car).
My sister gets out, and she’s all “Oh my god, what have you done?” and I threatened her life not to say anything to anyone! Luckily, we had hit these shelves, and horse blankets fell on the car, so it didn’t do any damage. We put everything back where it was and acted like nothing had happened.
He had no idea, for years. She finally cracked and told him when we were like, 22. And he said – “I probably don’t know how many times you’ve wrecked my cars.” Umm…no comment!
The part that was frustrating about going house-hunting with Jeff was that he wouldn’t even consider the option of living in a townhouse or a condo right now, and then getting the big house in the future. It would be so low-maintenance, and close to his work, but he wasn’t listening to me about the benefits. He was so set in his ways, so…I guess condos are out! It was just one of those situations where you talk to someone and it doesn’t matter what you say. You could say the condo was free, and they’re not going to like it.
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Hey Shea,
I thought that the condo you looked at was GORGEOUS, and perfect for the two of you! I definitely know how annoying it can be to deal with someone so close-minded about an idea though. Infuriating! Especially when you’d be the one stuck with the responsibility of the upkeeping of a big house.
Well I’m definitely looking forward to next week’s season finale; I’m dying to see what happens to everyone! Is there a season 2 in the works?
xo Sarah
Hello Shea,
I agree Louisville, also my hometown, has been shown in a very positive light during the taping of the Southern Belles. I think you are adorable, you are certainly my favorite personality on the show. But, seriously girl please don’t be so condescending to your man. When my husband and I were first married I too was cocky, bossy and thought I knew everything. Now, I enjoy letting him take the reins and run some things. It’s a liberating feeling, controlling it all is so much pressure. Take care and good luck to you and your sisters on the show!
Best,
The Other Louisville Lip
Dear Shea,
Somehow, I hope these words get to you. I have never been compelled to write to someone from a reality show before but I must tell you I had to reach out to you today. My heart absolutely broke for you last night when I saw the last 5 minutes of the show. It took me back to a scary place when I was hurt and feeling alot of the emotions you were feelng. I have to tell you when watching the show, I didn’t exactly feel you and Jeff were compatible at all but I do understand what it is to love someone so much you will do anything to make it work. I’ve done the same. I saw in your face and body how much weight you must have lost from heartbreak. You didn’t need to lost any before and all of a sudden I saw myself in you. I’ve lost the weight, cried my eyes out and hurt for a long time but believe me time heals all wounds. I think Jeff is an absolute COWARD! he has no balls to do something like that. I hope his parents are proud of what a complete loser and cheat their son is. What goes around comes around and he will know how it feels when someone hurts him. Shea, I admire your strengh. To see how you changed your phone number, moved away and told him it is over for good..require alot of courage. Alot of women would have continued on knowing they had deposits, a ring, and hoped for the best. Good for you to tell him to take a hike!!!!! you deserve soooooo much better. What a loser he is he couldn’t even do a final interview like a man. Shea my deepest condonlences on the loss of your mom, know now she is in Heaven watching over you and guiding your steps towards the right person who will love, honor and protect you. Although nothing can take away the pain of losing a loved one, know she is there with you always and will do all she can from above to have her little girl find true and everlasting happiness. All the best…may you find all your are looking for. Your in my prayers. Also, here is my email address if you ever need a friend in NY. Nicki
After watching the show tonight, especially after seeing the last 5 minutes about you… it was like seeing myself 5 years ago. I also lost my mother and I left a relationship. It was very devastating to me on many levels. When I look back on it now, I thank my Mother for raising the kind of woman that I am today. Because through her teachings and through my memories of her, I found the strength to keep moving forward. I kept telling myself that I can’t change the past and all I can do is move forward and that’s what I kept doing… I kept going forward. It wasn’t easy but as time goes on, you just learn to live with that “void” in your life. And your Mom was right, things happen for a reason. And even though you walked alone in your grief, you were never truly alone. You have some really great friends who will always be by your side.
Shea! I am so sorry about BOTH your loses. You are an amazing woman!! I went through the same with a cheating louse. I tried to ignore all the times he flirted with other women in front of me – in the end he cheated BIG TIME and it was a really bad break up because we had already moved in together. My heart broke for you when I watched the season finale – I know you loved that man, but all the fans could see he wasn’t the one, you two were an ill match – he is immature, you are a grown woman who needs a man, A MAN Shea – not a boy. Why didn’t your friends tell you the same? I love your realness and my prayers are with you.